I got the insight for this post while I was at the V&A Museum seeing the Shoes: Pain and Pleasure Exhibition. I saw some really fascinating pieces on display .All I’m about to write is simply my opinion and mine alone. If you agree or disagree, all well and good.
Do women dress for themselves, for men or to contest with each other?
the confident women that beautifies her self to reward her ego’s needs, the self conscious woman dependent on the approval of a man or someone else to feel beautiful about herself and the woman compelled by social class to look better than the next woman. I think every woman has a little bit of all three classes at the same time at different points of her life, the degree however of each varies.
From tender years, the girl child is put in clothes to make her look even more adorable, and on most occasions without her permission. I mean she’s only a toddler, what does she know? The typical girl starts to get picky about what you put on her the moment she is aware of the ‘importance’ of appearance. Can you blame her, at age 14 she’s already getting attention from her mates and the opposite sex.
Fortunately, I attended an all girls boarding secondary school which had the ugliest uniform under the Sun. Thankfully, we didn’t have to think much about who looked best in her uniform. However, by University, it was literally a contest to see who wore the better outfit to class and social gatherings. Was this a deliberate choice or an unconscious lifestyle that girls partook in? As I matured through University and life’s experiences, I met different women. Those who put their appearance on top of their priority list, some who didn’t even care at all for themselves, a few who treasured enriching their intellect over their wardrobes and some who put effort into looking good just to please others. Quite fascinating.
So to answer the question ‘why do women dress up’? I do not have the right or perfect answer. What I have learned for sure over my short life as a young woman is the fact that as a woman, we shouldn’t neglect nourishing our brain, intellect and soul in a bid to look the hottest! I am a strong supporter of the ‘Do you’ movement, but ‘you’ will be even hotter and more pretty if you have more to offer than what the mirror gives. You don’t have to study a million books, or camp outside your local library to grow intellectually. Take simple steps like
- Visiting a gallery with an exhibition that appeals to you
- Watch informative movies and documentaries
- Read at least one good book a year
- Keep smart girls in your circle of friends
- Listen to empowering podcasts
- Attend useful seminars and talks
- Take a short course on a skill you’ve always wanted to learn
- Learn to use a new software skill (Photoshop, Illustrator, InDesign e.t.c)
- Volunteer at a local charity shop if you have the time (You’ll get to meet some inspiring women while at it)
There is so much more that you could do, this list is just amongst a few. I do hope 2017 will be a year that we all will get better in all areas of our lives.‾ ‿ ⁀
Let’s talk, comment below with your view of what might be the reason why women dress up. There is beauty and love in sharing.
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